I’m thrilled to be in the top three articles for this week’s edition of e[lust]! Many thanks to the reviewers and editrix for welcoming my Blogging For Choice story of my experiences as an intern at an abortion clinic.
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~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~
Uncoiling – I slip the blade between your hip and the fabric of the undergarment, and slide. The pretty thing splits easily, and the panty leg opens, revealing your skin underneath.
Ahead of Time - I know you don’t like to know ahead of time when I’m going to let you out, but I just wanted you know that it’s going to be, well, a long time.
Blogging For Choice: My Story - Should I begin with Catholic high school? Sure, why not. I suppose that’s when I first began thinking about abortion, especially when the opportunity for double credit for community service hours rolled around.
~ e[lust] Editress ~
Vignettes: Virtual Peep Show - I kept my bullet vibe on low to draw it out as long as possible for me as I stared, mouth open, at the two cute girls who loved to show off. I let the room in general, and the girls too, know that I was watching, appreciating and jerking off with them. I was encouraged by the greedy, horny men in the room to join them on camera.
~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~
I missed you… – I could smell your cologne as I reached past you, key in my hand to unlock the door. That smell always set me off and you knew it. Your eyes told me what you wanted. You saw in mine what I couldn’t say out loud.
See also: Pleasurists #62 and #63 for all your sex toy review needs.
In the Looking Glass by PerryGallagher
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Editor’s Pick
- The Forked Tongue by Sweet Tart
It is a short book: 124 pages, large font, wide spacing, maybe 30,000 words in total. And yet, unlike other books on similar topics, it does not feel like there is too little material. Rather, that Flagg is the master of brevity and precision. His is the pert aphorism, the cutting quote. He wields words like a surgeon wields a scalpel. As, indeed, he should: his topic is the use of language.
Note: Not only does Sweet Tart do a wonderful job introducing a book to us in a well-written and concise manner (in perfect harmony with the book itself it seems) but The Forked Tongue sounds absolutely intriguing and slightly disturbing. They are both definitely worth a read!
Editrix
On to the reviews…
- Toy: Rocket Balm: For His Pleasure
- Type: Men’s Oil-Based Stimulation Balm
- Manufacturer: Lover’s Choice Inc.
- Material: Almond Oil, Coconut Oil, Beeswax, Menthol, Peppermint Oil, Ginseng among other natural ingredients listed on the label
- Price: $8-$10
Rocket Balm is a novelty item designed to be rubbed on the penis to help stimulate him and heighten his pleasure. It comes in a tin that resembles cuticle cream. Rocket Balm is an oil-based balm with a delightful, peppermint smell, not that a nice clean body needs help to smell good, but it’s nice to have an opportunity to jazz up the way you or your partner smells.
The video above demostrates how to use the balm with the help of the “Big Purple Monster” dildo. The product can be quite cold when you first take it out for use because it comes in a tin, so you will need to press firmly with your fingers to warm up the balm and continue moving your fingers around to get the balm out of it’s container. You may rub the balm wherever you or your partner likes on the penis (including the balls). You should rub Rocket Balm in until it absorbs into the penis and it will leave a slight tingling sensation meant to stimulate.
I enlisted the help of a guest reviewer to try Rocket Balm out because my “Big Purple Monster” can’t tell me its thoughts on the product. What did he think? His first response is that it smells quite nice, however the product is not ideal for hand jobs because of the effort required to get the balm out of the tin; there’s not really enough you can get onto your hands to keep the motion slick. He felt the minty tingling sensation but found it to be really unpleasant. The experience with such a sensation could be different from person to person so you may find that you or your partner likes it; this reviewer did not. Also the reviewer’s partner found the balm to be incredibly uncomfortable (a bit of the tingling sensation rubbed off of the penis onto his partner).
Another thing to keep in mind about this product is it is NOT latex friendly. It says as much on the back of the packaging and all the ingredients are oil based. You cannot use a condom while using the product. Rocket Balm is a balm and is not meant to be used as any sort of lubricant, either for manual stimulation or for penetrative sex. It is only meant to be rubbed on for its tingling sensation. Rocket Balm also comes with a list of ten pleasure tips which are really basic and you probably shouldn’t bother.
So Rocket Balm is a novelty product. It could be fun but our testers didn’t particularly like it. You can’t use it with condoms or for manual sex. It smells nice and some people may like the tingle, but my guest reviewer won’t be using it again, except for cuticle cream. My reviewers were terribly confused when they noted the stuff has great ratings at Babeland.com and other reputable sex stores, so your experience may vary.
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It’s official! I’m now a volunteer Sexpert over on the Sexpert Advice section of the amazing Scarleteen.com . As I address questions from teens and young adults I will be posting announcements here, just in case you happen to have the same question.
Anonymous asks:
Ok, so here is my dilemma. I just started college this past August. A few weeks into it my boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me. I thought I would never move on and so did everyone around me. So, a week or so before we got out for Christmas break I met a really awesome guy and we hit it off right away and so we started dating. We decided to wait to do anything sexual till around our 6 month aniversay. Well, I really do like my boyfriend and he means alot to me. He actually treats me better than my old boyfriend, but he is overweight. He wrestled in high school, which made him gain weight, and he also played football, which made him lose weight. I’m 140 lbs and he is 250 lbs. Don’t get me wrong, I like the way he is and he is also trying to lose weight and making the efforts to do so. My fear is that I won’t be able to be intimate with him because of his weight problem. I have never been with a bigger person. So my question is, how can I get myself ready or prepared to be intimate with him without making him feel bad, because that is the last thing I want to do.
Ruthie replies:
Congratulations on starting college and on your great new relationship with a guy who means a lot and treats you well! This is an exciting time in many ways, and I’m glad to hear that you’re interested in waiting on getting sexual until you both feel ready for it. It sounds like you just started dating in December and are thinking of waiting until this summer to do anything sexual. You’re very wise and caring to know that an important part of being ready is feeling excited by, and supportive of, your partner’s body size and shape. This is especially true if your partner’s body is somehow different from other bodies with which you are familiar, including a different weight and size.
- Toy: Jenna’s Double Play (sent by Lustique)
- Type: Dual vibe, waterproof, innie/outtie combo, basic rabbit style vibe, 2 AA batteries
- Manufacturer: Doc Johnson
- Material: phthalate-free, flexible jelly-like material
- Price: $24.99
- SMT rating: 1
The good folks at Lustique have sent me several delightful toys to review, and it’s my pleasure to introduce you to this lovely, pink lady. Jenna’s Double Play is a waterproof, battery powered, innie/outtie combo vibe designed to give both vaginal and clitoral stimulation at the same time. It’s made of a phthalate-free free, softly scented, flexible material that feels like an upgrade of the old jelly rubber that used to be so popular before we learned that it was nearly impossible to get clean and likely toxic. So, if you miss the days of jelly rubber toys, you definitely want to take a look at this one! The design resembles the classic rabbit vibe type of toys, but without the internal beads or oscillating action, which some folks like and others avoid.
The video above demonstrates how to use the vibe, and how quietly it runs. Take a look to learn more about it and how to use it. You can even watch me introduce Jenna’s Double Play to Venus, my loyal stunt vulva.
You know, this is a fun, basic toy, especially for the price. It’s good for beginners and regular toy lovers, and especially nice for couples. You can use it by itself, or add your fingers for extra clitoral sensation. Good stuff!
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- Em and Lo Book Contest Deadline: January 29th.
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Looking for something other than reviews?
Editor’s Pick
- Fun Factory Flexi Felix by Dr. Ruthie
Note: I really enjoy Dr. Ruthie’s reviews and also think she is absolutely adorable. I think this one is wonderful, especially as an anal review since she talks a lot about uses of anal beads as well as safety and the toy itself. There is also a written component to this review if you click on the link above.
Editrix
On to the reviews…
The amazing Heather Corinna of Scarleteen.com reminds us that today is Blogging for Choice Day. On one hand it’s tempting to say that this blog isn’t political; however I think we all know that sexual pleasure and well-being remains a hugely controversial topic. As I like to remind parents that attend my workshops on raising kids to become sexually healthy adults, there is a beautiful irony in the fact that my career is made possible by all of the sex-negative forces in the world (especially abstinence-based education… give my card to your kids in a decade or two). Furthermore, sexual rights are necessary to sexual pleasure, among so many other things. Now that we’ve established that Blogging for Choice Day can fit into the theme around here, I will get back to the task of telling my story.
Should I begin with Catholic high school? Sure, why not. read more…
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Did you miss Pleasurists #60? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists #62? Use our submission form and submit it before Sunday January 24th at 11:59pm PST. Be sure to read our submission guidelines.
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- Giftcard Giveaway! Deadline: January 22nd.
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Editor’s Pick
- Basic Essentials Softee by Undressed Reviews
Marketing Guy 1:
What do chicks love?
Marketing Guy 2:
My Dick!
MG 1 & 2:
WOOOOOAAAAAAHHHHH!
MG 1:
No seriously, though…they love pink…and….and….
MG 2:
My Dick!
Note: Seriously hilarious. If you like your reviews with a side of comedy and snark like I do this one is fantastic and may occasionally have you wondering wtf.
Editrix
On to the reviews…
- Toy: Flexi Felix (sent by TrinityRomance)
- Type: Silicone anal beads/bloops
- Manufacturer: FunFactory
- Material: Silicone
- Price: ~ $45
- SMT rating: 0 (doesn’t vibrate, but you can add your own bullet vibe, as shown in the video)
This lovely, velvety, silicone improvement on anal beads was an absolute delight to review! The Trinity Romance Shop of Squamish, British Columbia (Canada) helps to keep its region, all of Canada, and the USA supplied with phthalate-free sex toys and sex-positive resources. Naturally, I was thrilled when they offered to send me a review copy of the delightful Flexi Felix! An interview with the founder will be featured here soon, so you can read all about the experience of starting an indie sexuality boutique up north.
Those who keep an eye on my blog know I make it my duty to scout out toys for faults and problems in order to give an honest review (regardless of whether it was sent to me for review or I bought it). Therefore, you can be confident when I give a toy my joyful thumbs up!
The Flexi Felix by Fun Factory has joined the ranks of elite as a fantastic toy. Compose of safe, sanitary silicone with no rough seams, excellent shaping, and a smiling flared base (just look at the video) – Flexi Felix should be a favorite of anal pleasure beginners and those who enjoy a good set of beads. It’s firm enough to insert easily, a bead at a time, yet soft enough to be comfortable and easy to lubricate. The base is the perfect size and shape to fit comfortably between the cheeks, complete with two holes for easy gripping and control. And who can resist such an upbeat partner in pleasure, with that smiling face on the base? For added fun, insert a thicker vibrating bullet into one of the eyes (she won’t mind) to give some buzz to the entire toy.
For those considering any type of anal beads, this toy should be at the top of your list. Never purchase one with fabric string, or with beads strong loosely (unsealed) over a plastic or wire string. These are the perfect places for bacteria to hide – luckily you’re safe from that with this toy. Just give it a good washing before and after use, or you can even carefully dip it briefly in boiling water to sanitize it!
All butt toys should be used with plenty of high quality lube, including this one. Our tester used the Flexi Felix with oil-based lube, as that is what he prefers, but it can also be used with water-based lubricants. It’s important to patch test silicone lubes on the base if you prefer them, as silicone lube can cause problems for silicone toys. While he didn’t get much in the way of prostate stimulation from the toy, until it buzzed, he did enjoy the sensation of inserting and removing it. I go into more detail on how to use the toy in the video, in case you’re curious or looking for suggestions. This toy can also be enjoyed by folks with female parts, of course, as everyone’s anal area is rich with nerves made just for sexual pleasure. That makes the Flexi Felix a great toy for every body!
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- Toy: The Crystal Chic Wand in pink (sent by Lustique)
- Type: Dual vibe, bendable innie, outtie, g-spot or prostate toy
- Manufacturer: CalExotics Novelties
- Material: ABS plastic with velvet texture
- Price: $34.99
- SMT rating: 0 (strong vibes, but too thin to rank on SMT)
The Crystal Chic Wand by CalExotics came in my mail from the good folks at Lustique.com, crystals glistening in the sun, and proved itself to be a near-perfect toy! With 2 solid vibes, easy 3 speed control, a bendable shaft, and loads of power this vibe is the perfect accomplice for hours of pleasure. So what’s its secret weakness? Keep reading to find out.
