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Change your RSS feed, email subscriptions and all of that good stuff over at the new blog!
After nearly two years of blogging here on wordpress.com, I’ve made the leap to a self-hosted blog that is smoothly integrated with my professional site. You’re warmly invited to explore the entire site where you can learn more about me and my services, in addition to reading my blog.
The switch to my new professional site and blog would not have been possible without the services of my amazing web designer, AAG of AAGBlog. Over the past year I have attempted to contract with quite a few designers, none of which were able provide me with a prompt, attractive and highly functional design (especially for a reasonable price). I started asking around with others in my field and discovered that this is a common problem. Therefore, I was all the more overjoyed when a friend and fellow blogger suggested AAG. Right from the start she invested her time in speaking with me about my needs and goals for this project, and consistently checked in to answer questions and respond to my requests throughout. AAG has a great way of making her clients feel valued, and always uses a clear and concise style of communication. For all this great service, she also cost far less than any other designers I have spoken with and I can even update my own pages easily now that it’s done! YAY! If you’re looking to give your site a facelift or even a brand new site, I strongly encourage you to check out AAG and please say hi for me!
There I stood at the front of the room with a playful feather-tipped whip in my grasp, the short rubber tails resting in the palm of my other. I smiled down at one of my favorite workshop attendees, gave her wink, and then slowly narrowed my eyes as the rubber tails began to slap against my open hand in a slow rhythm.
“I hear you were naughty, very naughty. I can’t allow you to be naughty like that without paying the price. Are you ready to tell me what you did?”
The room is quietly transfixed, watching my quick transformation from bubbly and educational into an example of a confident and assertive partner with the promise of exotic pleasures shining in my eyes. Not just any pleasures, mind you, but the kind of sexy fun that gives permission to be naughtier than my fictional accusations with no regrets and no risk. After all, an invitation like that tells a lover that she or he has permission to let down their guard, join my fantasy and make it real.
“Oh, yes!” came her eager response in a stage whisper, triggering a wave of laughter through our group.
That night I was discussing the value of props during dirty talk, but I had clearly found a topic of interest with my participants that night (and not just my target). The questions came fast and furious after the workshop:
- How do I get my partner to do something new?
- Where does that confidence come from, and how do I tap in without feeling silly?
- I’ve always wanted to try something special but he won’t initiate. How can I suggest it without it falling flat?
- We’re both the passive type. Is there a way to invite my partner to be more assertive with me, without them feeling nervous about mistreating me?
- And my favorite: Can you teach me how to stand up and look smooth saying something like that?
How to start? Begin by looking for your voice by hunting through quality erotic stories of sensual dominance. You need not be the dirtiest sailor in town, nor do you need to be the dominant partner in your relationship. That’s right, you can initiate just far enough to give your partner the inspiration and direction to take charge for the rest of your interlude. Regardless of whether you’re a smoldering dominatrix or a shy librarian on a mission, once you’ve found a natural persona you can work with you’ll be ready to tap into the other elements of your fantasy including your plot, props, pleasure points, poise and sensual words.
Ready to learn more? You’re in luck!
Join me for a live workshop this weekend at the lovely Lotus Blooms in Alexandria, details below. Not in the DC area this weekend? You can also check out my series of workshops on Fantasies for the Shy at the wonderful KinkAcademy .
When you’re ready to take Irresistible Seduction to new heights, drop me a line to schedule your one-on-one session with me. My clients come from all over the world, thanks to the magic of Skype, as well as from the DC area!
Irresistible Seduction: From Fantasy to Bedroom
- Sat, March 13, 8:00pm – 9:30pm
- Lotus Blooms at 1017 King Street, Alexandria, VA. (703) 535-8225 (map)
- You requested this topic at our January workshop, Fantasies for the Shy, and here it is! Ready to heat things up this March? Enter a new level of seduction as you entice your lover with an irresistible touch of sensual dominance, even if you’ve never dared to before. Bring voice, poise, and titillation into alignment as Dr. Ruthie guides you in exactly how to bring this fantasy from your imagination to your bedroom. Arrive early to shop with Dr.Ruthie at 7pm, then join us for the workshop at 8pm sharp. This event is open to all genders, sexualities, relationships and singles. Reservations are suggested to ensure your seat, cost is $20. Call (703) 535-8225 for info and tickets.
Below is my most recent Sexpert Advice post at the wonderful comprehensive sexuality ed website for teens and young adults, Scarleteen.
Why are male condoms so big? I understand that they’re designed and fitted for adult men, but it seems like they’re better suited for covering an overripe banana. Do they sell smaller-sized and/or better-fitting condoms for guys?
I’m so glad that you wrote in with this question!
HNT Courtesy of Blue-Eyed Vixen
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This Isn’t Play. . . BDSM and Rape – The very basic principle that we hold so dear in BDSM play, “Nothing without consent” seems to stand in stark contrast to a very common form of play, “Rape Play”.
Half-Full – When I get my ass beaten, is it as much for the sensation as it is for the “Good girl…I knew you could take that for me.” that I want so badly at the close of the scene?
House Party Part 2 –His wife walked by at one point and he cryptically asked her to “do what she did to so-and-so earlier”. His wife disappeared behind me, but I felt her hands touching me and his cock as it entered me.
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Backseat Orgasms – We kissed lightly and without focus, both a sensual act and maddening at the same time. More, I needed more. In a blur I was on my knees on the seat, straddling his leg, his mouth latched onto one nipple and his fingers hunting for the key to undoing my dress pants.
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Are You Watching Me? – A plan of devious proportions begins to form. Before this is over with, I will have forced you into a corner…forced you to act…forced you to give ME what I want.
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- Toy: VibroPod (sent by Lustique)
- Type: innie vibe with 8 functions and also vibes in time to you MP3 player, 2 AAA batteries
- Manufacturer: California Exotic Novelties
- Material: phthalate-free, coated hard plastic phallus, lots of cords, and a power box
- Price: $37.49
- SMT rating: unknown. Plastic quickly cracked on the insertable part.
I’m just not having luck with these MP3 vibes! First it was one of the original OhMiBod MP# vibes, which ceased to vibrate at all by the second or third use. Now it’s the Cal Exotic’s version, the VibroPod, which developed a horizontal crack in the casing almost immediately and has tediously long cords.
This vibrator is made to attach to your iPod or mp3-player. Inside of it’s cardboard packaging is a nice purple mesh bag which holds it’s many feet of cords, as well as our vibrator and its power pack. There is a a sea of cords that you can watch me swim swim around with in the review above.
I orignially tried to listen to a dance mix, but the vibration was too consistant, so I suggest using something with less of a consistant base-line. When I put on Daniel Bedingfield’s “I Gotta Get Through This” it worked fine.
If you do not want to use the toy with music, you can disconnect it from your mp3 player and should be able to change between 8 speed settings as long as you first unplug the iPod from the toy. Although this toy worked longer than the name brand version I tried to review, I have some issues with the quality. Although I have not put the VibroPod through any strenuous use the plastic covering has already cracked, as shown in the pic here.
So, we have a confusing, poorly made, cheap toy. You could possibly use the toy for fun things, but toys that crack easily are not toys you should be buying.
- Toy: Twisties in Dusty Rose (sent by Lustique)
- Type: waterproof, outtie, single speed, 1 N sized battery (2 included)
- Manufacturer: Doc Johnson
- Material: non-phthalate PVC
- Price: $13.79
- SMT rating: 0
Twisties – Dusty Rose comes packaged in easy-to-open clam-shell packaging with two N sized batteries (one spare). It is waterproof and made from non-phthalate PVC which is firm yet somewhat flexible at the tip. Basically, this vibe is a larger version of the bullet vibe with a rubber coating. Twisties – Dusty Rose has a ring on the end which is used to help twist off the cap. There is no indication as to which way the battery goes so you’ll have to experiment with that for a few seconds.
Twisties – Dusty Rose has only one speed (which isn’t very strong) so you simply twist the ring completely closed to turn it on. Doc Johnson isn’t known for great motors in their vibrators and this one is no exception; although the motor isn’t terrible, it clearly isn’t a premium component. The ring on the end may be useful to help move the toy around or for bondage play (because the ring is ideal for rope), but other than that there isn’t anything particularly special about it. It’s worth noting the ring is hard plastic, while the rest insertable portion is that PVC over hard plastic.
The toy isn’t shaped for pressure on the G-spot and it isn’t very large. I strongly recommend that you do not use this toy for anal stimulation even though the toy resembles a butt plug; anal toys should have a flaired based which is clearly wider than any other part of the toy and the ring on the base just doesn’t cut it.
While is has aspects to it that are intriguing, those aspects are few and far between. If I had to choose between using Twisties – Dusty Rose and taking a nap, I’d probably choose the nap, and that’s a bit sad.