Kink Interview: Transexuality as Embodied Kink and Sexual Vampirism
I’m proud to introduce you to VioletErotica, an Italian who proposes that zer body itself is a kink, as ze has experienced life as more than one sex. VioletErotica also talks about her love of sexual vampirism, as well as sharing stories of zer experiences with various lusty women who learned a new appreciation for the queering of gender and sexuality from zer! Keep reading for all of the details, and a second photo.
VioletErotica, please tell us, what is your kink?
I think my own body is a kink. I’m 25 yr-old, and I’ve passed through three bodies. First the intersexual one (from 6 to 15 I’ve had feminine secondary sexual characteristics, in a genetic male body), then the male one (from 15 to 22), and now the transexual one (today). Within four-five months, I’m having the fourth one (feminine body): I hope it will be the definitive!
I also have the kink of sexual vampirism.
How common do you think your kink is?
Science tells us that one person out of 4,000/5,000 is born with a sexual characteristics ambiguity. I don’t know how many people live this ambiguity out as a kink in their sexual lives, I think it depends on the person and how much is visible/developed is the ambiguity.
About vampirism, today there’s a film/literary fashion about it. I think there are a few people that apply vampirism in an only-sexual way, because there isn’t an extensive awareness over different facets in which vampirism can appear.
How did you become interested in this kink?
Sexual ambiguity because I’ve lived and I’m living it with my body.
Vampirism because I’ve had a big attraction to gothic music and atmospheres since my childhood. If I want to be consistent with myself and my lifestory, I must pay attention to all different natures and alterities present in life: vampirism is the most attractive for me, because it makes me reason about the fleetingness of borders between human nature and animal nature, between human charm and animal fascination.
How did you come to start your own business in this area?
I have been an amateur photographic model since last year, and through images I’ve explored sexual ambiguity considerably. No business about vampirism at the moment.
What are your favorite parts of your job?
I agree that is enjoyable and I have fun when I pose in front of the camera. Moreover, filling sexual ambiguity of contents through my pics makes me very happy and satisfied.
What are some things you really wish more people knew about your kink?
About sexual ambiguity, I hope there will be much more medical and scientific information in the future. Lack of scientific knowledge over transexualism, intersexualism and pseudo-hermafroditisme is the first step for discrimination, social irrelevance and lack of civil rights.
About sexual vampirism, I wish that people would understand that it may be more enjoyful than painful, that it’s as consensual as any other practice, and that well-done sexual vampirism is safe and gives partners a great consciousness over their bodies. I hope that people rediscover the wonderful wave of cinematography from 30’s to 70’s, with its strong liaisons between vampirism and homosexuality/bisexuality, too.
How do you incorporate your kink into your sexual experiences?
I’m lesbian and sometimes I employ my sexual ambiguity to seduce bisexual/pansexual women, or to tempt curious heterosexual women.
Is there anything you have to be particularly careful about with this kink? If so, how do you handle it?
Nothing particularly about sexual ambiguity.
About sexual vampirism: greatest honesty with his/her own partner, regular blood controls and don’t take substances that can alter healthy sanguine levels.
Would you please tell us a story or two about sexual experiences you’ve had involving your kink?
I had sexual relations with a 46yrs. old female (I’m a MILF, too), mother of a son older than me. Before we had sex she asked to me: “How does it work?” It was her first non-heterosexual relation. In fact, I acted as a lesbian genetic-woman, despite the presence of the penis: I think she was more confused after than before!
I also had sexual relation a with a 30yrs. old woman, in a gothic nightclub: when we casually met in the biggest room, she wanted to have fun with me spontaneously. After the top of our excitation, she said to me it was her hen party. She had flirted with me because she had dreamed of having sex with a transexual woman for over ten years, before that night. My novel titled “Le libertine di Oslo” is a romanticized version of that experience.
How do people react when you share your kink with them, if anyone knows?
I live in the most progressive city of Italy, where LGBT associationism was born, so when I talk about transexualism, there is no problem. All people know my body situation and my sexual orientation, even Nazis have known at gothic events, and nobody has troubled me for these aspects.
How do you go about finding partners that share your interest?
First step: the Web, specific sites
Second step: eventually, specific events ( often organized by the same sites).
Can you recommend any resources for people who want to learn more or might even share your kink?
VioletErotica, thank you so much! It has been a pleasure reading about your perspective of your body as kink through the queering of gender, sex and sexuality. I’m also sure that many readers have been eager to hear your thoughts on sexual vampirism. I hope that you will come back and update us on your final transition to feminine body!
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