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Looking Your Sexiest

October 8, 2008

DelectableDiva brings her years of professional experience in the beauty industry to this post on making a great first impression.

‘Personal beauty is a greater recommendation than any letter of introduction.’


What an amazing statement that is! It’s so powerful. Psssssst I have a secret for you. Within the first three seconds of a new encounter, you are evaluated… even if it is just a glance.

If your demeanor is immediately pleasing to the eye–attractive hair and makeup, clean clothes which are wrinkle-free and the correct size for your body type, a great smile, and last but not least, positive body language–you are considered suitable for further interaction.

If you are lacking in any of these areas, you might be tolerated but kept at arm’s length.

Now, with that in mind, answer this question. How do you really view yourself? When you look in the mirror, are you pleased with your appearance, or extremely dissatisfied? When is the last time you made a change in your beauty regime? Are you willing to make a change, whether big or small?

Have you ever noticed that when you KNOW you don’t LOOK good, you don’t FEEL good either? Perhaps you woke up late and didn’t have time for your normal beauty routine. Or maybe you just don’t feel well and the last thing you want to do is TRY to look decent. I have had those kind of days myself (who hasn’t?) and my day just wasn’t that great. I have a better chance of having a good day when I know my appearance is the best that it can be.

Here are a few tips for looking and feeling your best. (after the jump)


If you haven’t figured out by now what your most beautiful and seductive parts are, it’s time you did, and started showing them off, too. Now, obviously you aren’t going to go raid the racks of Victoria’s Secret when picking out work attire. You may, however, still have fun with your look. Everyone has their own unique style, whatever the range is. Find out what your positive features are (if you don’t know, ask somebody!) and make sure your style highlights it!

Pick some clothes that flatter your figure and that you feel comfortable in. There’s no point picking the latest fashions if you don’t feel comfortable in them! Pick clothes that make you feel like you!

Black is sexy. It hides fat rolls, creates curves and makes you feel like a goddess.

Wear sexy underwear. Whatever you wear now, bump it up a notch. Buy something sexy and extravagant you’d never consider wearing and wear it under your everyday clothes. No one has to know but you and you’ll feel super-sexy keeping the secret!


Sometimes you just have to ‘fake it until you make it’. So if you’re still not feeling sexy, flip open a popular magazine, and do your best to mimic the hair, make-up, and outfits you see. I bet that you’ll be surprised by how close you can get… and you’ll realize that part of actually being sexy is just creating the illusion of sexiness!


Just make sure not to go overboard — subtle is very sexy. Accent one feature at a time! If you go for dramatic eyes, make sure your lips are lower-key. Keep a subtle lip gloss for those days. If you have nice lips, make them pop by using a lip liner with a matching lip color. If you need help creating a look, a mall make-up counter or independent beauty consultant will be thrilled to assist you.

And in my opinion… you can throw the rule book out the window when it comes to colors. That’s the neatest part about doing make-up. You can be as creative as you want. If you have green eyes, you can still wear green eye shadow. In fact, it looks pretty darn good if done correctly! Don’t be afraid of using color. It’s just like painting a wall. If you don’t like it, you can paint over it. If you use a color on your eyes that you don’t care for, you can always wash it off and start over.


Even if you’ve already got a special someone at home, it can give you an ego boost like you wouldn’t believe! Girls… add an extra coat of lip gloss to your lips and make them irresistible! Guys… add another dash of cologne… makes us girls salivate like no other! Then put on your flirt-wear, head out for a night with the girls/guys, and bat a few eyelashes at the cutest girl/guy in the place. What’s the harm in that?

And… last but not least:


Smile at strangers, at co-workers and at yourself in the mirror. It does wonders to project a sense of confidence and improves your mood. Notice how people respond to you when you smile at them. It’s the universal language!

Oh sure, it’s easy to read beauty tips from someone but it’s a lot harder to get the results you desire. And sometimes I find that people often don’t know how to ask the beauty professionals in their lives for assistance. Either they’re uncomfortable asking or they don’t know the right questions to ask.

I have devised a checklist which will enable you to make more informed decisions while you’re sitting in your hairdresser’s chair. Please check which numbers fit you best.

  1. After I am first seated in his/her chair, I’m often unsure of how to describe what I’m looking for.
  2. I usually bring a picture with me to show him/her what I’m looking for.
  3. I am good at using describing words to explain what I’m looking for.
  4. If they give me a look that I’m not happy with, I am too shy to speak up and ask them to change it.
  5. If they give me a look that I’m not happy with, it’s easy for me to ask them to change it.
  6. I am bad at choosing colors and cuts that are suitable for my face shape and body type.
  7. I have a good idea what types of colors and cuts are suitable for my face shape and body type.
  8. I am always excited to try new colors, cuts, and styles.
  9. I am always hesitant to try new colors, cuts, and styles.
  10. I haven’t changed my hair in years and I don’t plan on doing so.
  11. I believe that the way I look influences the way that I feel about myself.
  12. I don’t think that my look has any bearing on who I am as a person.
  13. I am more inclined to go for a man/woman who has an attractive and more modern look (haircut, color, style).
  14. Modern looks aren’t important to me in a prospective mate.
  15. I am willing to put the time into my appearance every day.
  16. I don’t really have time to get ready each day due to other life distractions (kids/family, multiple jobs, etc).
  17. If I find a look that makes me feel good about myself, I would commit to keeping it up even if it meant getting up a little earlier each day to follow through with it.
  18. Sometimes I care about what I look like, and other times I don’t care.
  19. I am afraid to let my partner see what I really look like underneath my cosmetic facade.
  20. My partner understands that it takes effort to look good!
  21. My partner thinks that I wake up looking this beautiful every day!
  22. I want to change but I’m too scared to take a risk.
  23. I want to change but my hairdresser won’t take the time to help me make the right decisions.
  24. I find that my hairdresser doesn’t listen to me when I tell him/her what I want, so I stick with the same look each time I visit the salon.
  25. If I had to pay more than $10-12 for any hair service, I would avoid it because that’s more than I’m willing to spend.
  26. I am willing to invest in hair products that will make my look easy to achieve when I do it myself.
  27. My hairdresser has taken the time to explain how to use each product and how to style my hair so I can do it myself at home.
  28. My hairdresser can’t style my hair the way I can. I’d rather do it myself.
  29. I don’t visit a salon at all. I do my own hair services at home.
  30. I want to find a hairdresser that I can trust but I’m not sure how to go about doing so.
  31. I am easily influenced by friends to try new things that they suggest.
  32. If my friend suggested a hairdresser to me, I would try them out.

I have been a licensed hairdresser for almost 10 years now and I can honestly say it’s one of the most heart-warming careers out there. I can take someone through a total transformation within a couple of hours, taking years off their appearance.

If you have a good hairdresser, they will be able to do the following:

· Tell you what your face shape is (based on your bone structure) and show you what type of hairstyles are flattering on you.

· Tell you what colors will make you look your best; warm colors or cool colors.

· They repeat back to you in their own words exactly what you’ve told them so as to make certain that you are both on the same page. If they aren’t listening to you, they will give you what THEY want and not what YOU want. That’s one of the biggest reasons that a client won’t return.

· If you bring a picture of something you like (We love when you do this, by the way! It’s very helpful), they will tell you why it will or won’t work for your hair type. If it WILL work, they should be able to match it pretty well. If it WON’T work, they will tell you WHY and make suggestions for something that will work.

· Give you an explanation of the shampoo/conditioner they are using on you as well as all the styling products.

· Give you step-by-step instructions on exactly HOW much product to use and WHERE to use them. They will also show you how to use heat tools.

· Perform all the services in a sanitary manner. This means the cape and towels are clean and laundered and the combs/brushes have been sanitized thus preventing the spread of unpleasant things from client to client.

· Quality Control. This means they are giving you the same level of service each and every time you visit their salon.

· They are personable and greet you by name, making you feel important and special. Customer service is everything these days. It can make you or break you.

· If for some reason you aren’t happy, call and ask if you may return to get it fixed. If they are professional, they will do it free of charge.

It really is all about you. If you don’t feel you look good, you won’t feel good about yourself. If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get the same results, right? So take a chance!

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